Children with high emotional intelligence use these 6 expressions: Therapist
The duty of parents is not to protect their child from the difficulties of life, but to protect him guide them – offers support and tools help them in difficult times.
as a child life specialist and therapistI have worked with thousands of children and families dealing with illness, trauma, grief and loss. I have observed words and actions that indicate that a child is learning to deal effectively with life’s inevitable challenges.
It’s not about staying calm or avoiding tears. It’s about using strategies and skills to manage, cope and reduce stress when it arises. Therefore, children who cope well they have high emotional intelligence. They are good at identifying their feelings and using positive strategies to manage their emotions.
Listen to these six things you hear kids with high emotional intelligence say:
1. ‘You can’t be sad’
Children with high emotional intelligence probably have trusted adults who taught them that it’s okay to cry and that all feelings are okay.
They know that it is natural to feel sad, angry, frustrated, or anxious in response to difficult situations. In the same way, they learned that it is good to have happy, joyful or fun moments even in difficult times.
2. ‘I need some space’
Children with healthy coping skills can recognize and manage their emotions. They know the warning signs — racing thoughts, a fast heart rate, tense muscles or a knot in their stomach — and feel comfortable asking for what they need.
They can be self-directed.fight corner“Giving them time and space to use their pre-planned tools. For example, they can take a whistle or blow bubbles to help them breathe deeply.
They likely learned these skills by following their parents’ model of self-regulation and open communication.
3. ‘Are you okay?’
Emotionally intelligent children can to recognize the emotions of othersalso. They understand that both adults and children can have great feelings during difficult times and that everyone copes differently.
They may be the first to figure it out friend if they’re upset, they may need space or a hug, and that’s okay.
Empathy for others comes naturally to them, and they show ease and comfort in listening to another’s perspective, respecting their needs, and working together.
Even when their parents are emotional, they understand that they can still be loved, cared for, and safe.
4. ‘I don’t like…’
Trained children defining boundaries They have a high emotional intelligence that dictates how they want to be treated. They can communicate effectively sensitive to other people’s needs, wants and feelings.
They might say, “I don’t like you using my stuff without asking,” or “I don’t like not knowing what to expect.” You may hear other phrases beginning with or:
- “I’m not good…”
- “I don’t want to talk about it…”
- “I don’t think it’s cool/funny…”
They also consider respecting the needs of their peers and siblings.
5. ‘I was wrong’
This expression shows that the child is self-conscious and shy. Instead of being afraid to make mistakes or admit mistakes, they are able to talk about it and solve the problem to improve the situation or situation.
They also understand what they can do better or differently because they know what our mistakes are like to grow, learn and develop through hardships.
6. ‘I have an idea’
Confidence and creativity are signs of emotional intelligence and healthy coping in problem solving. Children faced with difficult situations learned to work with peers and trusted adults to find reasonable solutions or ways forward.
They are confident in expressing their thoughts, ideas and qualities while listening and learning from others.
When children deal with obstacles and consequences in a safe environment, they can develop decision-making skills and flexibility, while developing emotional awareness and self-esteem.
It starts with you
Don’t worry if your kids aren’t saying these things yet. Developing emotional intelligence and coping skills takes time and often starts with parenting.
Just start by saying them yourself. Children learn best from those who are modeled for them.
Kelsey Mora A Certified Child Life Specialist and Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, she provides specialized support, guidance and resources to parents, families and communities affected by medical conditions, trauma, grief and the stress of everyday life. She is a private practice owner, mother of two, creator and author Method workbooksand Chief Clinical Officer of a non-profit organization Acid Group.
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