Jessica Simpson, John Mayer broke up 9 times: Rewind wild romance

If Jessica Simpson married Eric Johnson in July 2014, it seemed like a long time – but, with the couple announces their separation nearly ten years later, on Monday, January 13, we remember the last time the singer went through a public breakup. It would be her relationship with John Mayer, which ended in 2010, just months before she met Johnson. Let’s take a look back at what happened during the unlikely union – including nine splits in four years.

How it started

Simpson, who is now 44, had a great time telling that story — and many more! — in his highly revealing 2020 autobiography, An open book. When she first met Mayer, now 47, it was 2005 and she was still married Nick Lachey. Two, very stylistically different, musicians were presented on Clive DavisA pre-Grammy party where Mayer compliments Simpson on her hit ballad “With You.” They were occasional pen pals, and then, when Simpson divorced Lachie in 2006 after four years of marriage, they started seeing each other secretly.

By early 2007, they were regularly spotted together, but it wasn’t until Mayer gave an interview Ryan Seacrest at the Grammys that year, he seemingly confirmed their relationship… except, true to his quirky style, he did so in Japanese, saying words that roughly translate to “She’s a wonderful woman and I’m happy to be with her “. Oh, wow.

How long did it last

The couple’s first split was widely reported in May 2007, but they were soon back together. In fact, while promoting her book, Simpson recalled that they actually broke up eight more times before calling it quits in 2010. “We were great close,” she said in 2020 today an interview. “We loved each other perfectly. It was easy, but the relationship was very complicated. And it was always on-again, off-again, on-again-off. And I went back almost nine times!”

How it ended

Well, you might already know that part. In an interview with Playboy who quickly gained infamy, Meier over-revealed his intoxicating relationship with The Simpsons, killing any chance of their reunion for the tenth time – thank goodness!

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“To me, this girl is a drug,” he said. “And drugs aren’t good if you take a lot of them. Yeah, this girl is like crack cocaine to me. Sexually, it was crazy. That’s all I’ll say. It was like napalm, sexual napalm. Have you ever said, “I want to give up my life and just snort with you?” If you charged me $10,000 from you, I’d start selling all my s— just to keep getting with you.”

It’s understood that the professionally clean-cut Simpson wasn’t thrilled to be described in such horrible terms (she later said, “I was embarrassed that my grandma would actually read it”), and she immediately cut the songwriter out of her life. “I deleted his number,” she wrote in her memoir. “He let me off easy. I did not accept his apology. I deleted all his contact information from my phone. I ended up with this man in a way I never thought possible. When he contacted me, I changed my number and email address. Delete”. Boom — here’s that napalm in action!

What they said about each other

Fortunately, some of the couple’s other comments about their relationship were a little more grandma-friendly.

“He would walk into the room and pick up his guitar and you’d pass out,” Simpson said. People in 2020, recalling his first impressions of Mayer when they met. “I really didn’t know the man behind the guitar. And that was my mission.”

And in February 2007 in a chat with Time out New YorkMayer said he doesn’t care if people think they’re an odd couple. “I’m having the best time of my life,” he said. “So if the names don’t make sense to people, it’s very little to me.”

What are they saying now

Because their relationship was so strange and ultimately controversial, it’s a topic that’s come up many times in interviews over the years — and get the full breakdown at An open book.

“He wanted to have me all or nothing,” Simpson wrote. “He told me over and over again that he was obsessed with me, sexually and emotionally. I would get up to go to the bathroom and John would ask, “Where are you going?”. While I was married, my ex-husband couldn’t be bothered to find out what city I was in. I felt safe to be wanted. I know that John will never deceive me, and this confidence was a new feeling for me.’

Simpson said Mayer’s intensely sexual comments about her felt like an unexpected betrayal by a man she thought she could count on and love. “He thought I wanted to be called that,” she wrote. “They don’t talk about a woman and how they are in bed. It was shocking. He was the most faithful man on the planet, and when I read that he wasn’t, that was it for me.’

While promoting the book, Simpson said And! News that Mayer was forgiven… sort of. “I definitely don’t think I have to make a public apology,” she said. “You can’t take it back. And I’m a very forgiving person, but I’m also honest. So, in the memoir, if I’m going to talk about what hurt me, I’m going to be honest. And it was a time in my life when I was very manipulated and I was also very much in love, or so it seemed.”

The older and wiser Simpson now also knows that her friends were never involved in the relationship. “He dumped me and then came back and said he discovered he loved me after all,” she wrote. “I’ve always seen him ruthlessly take me in from the cold. Every time John came back, I thought it was a continuation of the love story, while my friends saw a guy coming back to have sex with some stupid girl.’

Simpson also noted in the book that during the relationship she worried that Mayer was too smart for her — a source of sensitivity because she was caricatured as a “dumb blonde” at the time, which we’ve since learned, of course. couldn’t be further from the truth.

“I was constantly worried that I wasn’t smart enough for him,” she wrote. “He was so intelligent and treated the conversation as a friendly competition that he had to win.” She even said that she used to have friends proofread her messages for him in case he caught a typo. “My anxiety was building and I was pouring another drink,” she said. “That was the beginning of me relying on alcohol to mask my nerves.”

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Since that time Playboy In the interview, Mayer wisely kept quiet about his time with The Simpsons — but when An open book was published in 2020, a close friend of Mayer Andy Cohen broached the subject with him. “I heard about it,” Mayer said of the memoir. “I heard some beats. But as Pee Wee Herman says in Pee Wee’s Big Adventure before the movie of his life plays at the end, he doesn’t watch the movie, and the reason he doesn’t watch the movie, he says, “I don’t have to watch it , Dottie, I lived it.” And I think it’s prescient here.”

But has Mayer ever issued a formal apology for the “sex napalm” comments that devastated Simpson? Well, almost. On stage in Nashville in 2010he was filled with regret, explaining, “In my quest to be smart, I completely forgot about the people I loved and the people who loved me,” and saying he was in a “wormhole of selfishness, greed, and pride.”

Later, in 2012, in an interview with NPR’s Everything is taken into accounthe offered a similar explanation. “I had nothing to say,” he said. “I was going through a period in my life where I didn’t really want to share what was going on, but I didn’t want to be boring. If you are just open but not honest, then you start freely associating garbage. It doesn’t mean I can go back and clean it up, but I understand it now.”

Key Findings About Relationships

This relationship was basically a ticking time bomb. As Simpson herself said in her book: “He loved me as much as he could, and I loved that love for a very long time. Too long. And I went back and forth with him for a long time. But it controlled me.”

Some people even believed that Simpson changed her image to Mayer, dyeing her signature blond brunette to please him – but she insists that is not true. “He didn’t make me a brunette,” she said Attractiveness after their split. “John didn’t get credit for making me brunette. He would like to think so, but he does not deserve attention.’

With both stars now seemingly single, we doubt Simpson will be unlocking Mayer’s number anytime soon. Because ultimately, as she says, “this was Jess in her 20s.”

Now, as a 44-year-old mother of three, she knows better — and as for Mayer? He hadn’t been so reckless since then, so maybe they both learned something.